Bersyukurlah With Your Life

 Bersyukurlah dengan apa yang anda. It is your life. So design and execute it,

Rich Life Advice

Nota Kecil 2 May 2023

 Brainout dan Google Keep. My new tools :)

Erti Kawan Di Syawal 2023

 Semalam, sempat beraya dengan dua kawan lama di sekitar klang valley ini. Had a good time la ... walaupun penat sebab cuaca dan jarak yang jauh, ia berbaloi. Kerana Syawal adalah satu masa yang betul2 memberi lebih makna kepada erti persahabatan. 

Sejak kebelakangan ini, I am beginning to question/look at my friends that I have. And, remember who they are.

hensem kan? :P

Handling Life Regrets

 Handling life regrets can be a difficult and challenging process, but it is essential for personal growth and moving forward with your life. Here are some steps that you can take to handle your regrets and move on:

1. Accept your regrets: It's important to acknowledge and accept the regrets you have. Don't try to deny or suppress them, as they will only continue to affect you negatively.
2. Learn from your mistakes: Look at your regrets as lessons learned. Identify what went wrong and why. Use this information to avoid making the same mistakes in the future.
3. Forgive yourself: It's essential to forgive yourself for your mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes, and it's important to remember that you're only human. Holding onto guilt and self-blame will only hold you back from moving forward.
4. Focus on the present: Instead of dwelling on the past, focus on the present. Live in the moment and take steps towards your goals and dreams.
5. Take action: Once you've identified the lessons learned from your regrets, take action to implement positive changes in your life. Use the experience to motivate and inspire you to move forward and create the life you want.
6. Seek support: It's okay to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. Talking through your regrets with someone you trust can help you process your feelings and gain a fresh perspective on your situation.

Remember, handling regrets takes time and effort, but it is possible. By accepting your regrets, learning from your mistakes, and taking positive action, you can move forward and create the life you want.

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Pagi Raya 2023 look

Nota Pendek Ttg Hari Ini

 Hari ini, wisdom datang. Apabila kita menerima fakta dan move on, that is wisdom apparently. Kurangkan bodoh sombong anda, anda akan mendapat wisdom.

fesyen rambut Raya :P

Bye2 Jaja

Hazliza Ismail meninggal malam tadi, 8 pm, kerana sakit kanser. Arwah berasal dari Ampangan, bersekolah rendah di KGV (Seremban), dan menengah di KGV Menengah (Seremban) dan MRSM Jasin (Melaka). Saya kenal arwah semasa bersekolah di MRSM Jasin. Rupa-rupanya, kami bergerak dalam kumpulan sama sebelum bersekolah di Jasin pun, kerana kawan2 arwah di Ampangan, adalah kawan2 saya juga .

Saya tidak rapat dengan arwah, tetapi sepanjang mengenali beliau, yang pasti, beliau adalah insan yang easy-going dan ceria. Kami sekelas semasa tingkatan 5, 5 O. Saya pernah menghadiri wedding beliau dengan seorang rakan, arwah Azri. Pada kami sampai, beliau tengah buat sesi pakaian berhias :) ... masa tu, beliau pakai pesen kimono ;) Masa berjumpa, dia ada bercerita dia melanjutkan pelajaran ke UPM Bintulu, Sarawak, selepas SPM dan pada masa itu, bekerja di kilang Samsung, Senawang, Tidak lupa komen beliau tentang garangnya majikan orang Korea ;)

Saya ingat dua pertemuan terakhir dengan beliau.

Pertama, saya dan rakan saya, Errol, melawat open house rumah baru beliau n hubby di Seri Kembangan, Ketika itu, beliau sudah bertugas sebagai guru di sana, Masa tu, saya dapat tahu yang beliau baru recover from cancer, and dalam remission. This was about satu dekad lepas.

Kedua, saya terserempak beliau di McD Sg Besi (Serdang) drive through, semasa membeli McD. She was sitting at a table bersama seorang rakan Jasin, Homi, dan seorang wanita lain. Saya rasakan depa tengah buat MLM, so saya tak kacau, just nodded at her.

Dan malam tadi, seorang rakan Ampangan text kata arwah telah pergi. Dan setelah saya sebarkan berita kepada rakan2 lain, baru tahu sikit2 apa yang berlaku dengan arwah kebelakangan ini. Beliau betul2 laid low this past few years.

The cliche is true, you miss the good ones when they are gone.

InsyaAllah, see you when we get there, Jaja.

 Arwah berdiri sebelah kanan

Sabar + Syukur = ? Fog Part 4

 Ingat masa saya mengajar dahulu, saya pernah katakan kepada pelajar2 saya bahawa doing nothing is the surest thing ever, gerenti jadi. But, if you take action, it is either you will succeed or fail. Sebab itu la, ramai antara kita jatuh penyakit 'paralysis by analysis' ... too much thinking sampai tak buat apa2. 

I am guilty of this as well ... especially during the dark years ... solusi: sabar dan syukur ...  ;) bersabar dengan keadaan semasa, dan bersyukur kita ada pilihan. 

Buat Pilihan. Tgk Apa Jadi. Learn from apa jadi. Move on.

 

antara kerja2 bapa :D

Apa Pilihan Anda - Batu Besar Atau Batu Kecil?

 Hari ini saya nak buat macam2 .. tetapi dengan tanggungjawab yang ada, I can only do so much. Mengingatkan saya pada kisah batu besar, batu kecil dan bekas kaca. Secara ringkas, kita ada bekas kaca, dan sekumpulan batu2 - besar dan kecil. Batu besar adalah kerja/tanggungjawab besar, batu kecil adalah kerja/tanggungjawab kecil. Bagaimana kita nak isi bekas kaca dengan batu besar dan batu kecil secara optimum? Solusinya, kita letak batu besar dahulu, then kita letak batu kecil, untuk mendapatkan solusi optimum.

Penerangan secara lebih mendalam dalam video bawah oleh Stephen Covey

video

I am figuring this out since my 50s are coming soon :)

Life Loves A Tragedy - TK Final Post

 Yang menarik is post2 saya yang mendapat sambutan adalah post2 saya tentang pemergian, contohnya post semalam tentang arwah TK. Mungkin, kerana post2 begini saya menulis dengan lebih panjang dan more from the heart. 

Arwah sepatutnya 60 tahun ini ... dan nak sambung cerita la, since saya tidak habis tulis semalam, ada teringat sikit2 lagi ... saya tanya dia, kenapa rambut dia hitam saja .. dari dulu saya kenai dia ... baru tau jawapan, rupa2nya memang sebab genetik :) rambut family belah dia mmg hitam dan lebat2 belaka. Saya selalu kata, kalau dia, saya ingat rambut dia hitam dan cacak! 

Juga dapat tahu yang arwah Ajak, seorang rakan DagangNet juga adalah BFF beliau rupanya. Arwah Ajak pergi masa musim covid yang lepas, sekitar tahun 2020. Dan kali terakhir saya jumpa arwah TK, sebelum jumpa di KPJ, adalah juga bersama arwah Ajak di kenduri arwah anak Ajak sekitar 2019. Aduh! 

Luckily, we keep in touch via Seret Hikers WhatsApp, tapi still ... 

Lesson: Kita tidak tahu bila kita akan pergi, ... jika anda peluang berjumpa f2f bersama rakan/org tersayang, jangan lepaskan peluang ...

Sekian.

Gambar kami bertiga, saya dengan 2 arwah -Sept 22, 2019-

A Goodbye Post on TK

Beberapa hari lepas, dapat khabar mengejut yang seorang kawan zaman DagangNet, TK Faiz, dirawat di KPJ Dsara, cancer. Jumaat lepas, terus den lawat dia di wad..wad premier 3.

Memang dia lihat unwell, dan penat, tapi mampu layan den berborak sedikit. Den yg byk cakap : p ... zaman bermain bola di DNT, dia goalkeeper, den right back. Sbb dia ajak la, den main bola utk DNT, bersama Amran n Den Beramboi. 

Dia jugak invite den ke group whatsapp hiking dia beberapa tahun lps, seret Hikers. Den join, tp tak pernah2 den join activity depa. Den ckp dengan dia, u get well, I join la... join camping.

Tp, Dia lebih sayang beliau. Tengahari, dapat khabar dia nazak,  dan petang tadi, arwah pun pergi.

Selamat pergi tuan ... see you when we get there ... semoga dicucuri rahmatNya. 

Alfatihah.  Amin.

hari lawatan den, all the gifts ..

Insaf ... Fog Part 3

 Bila melihat keadaan manusia yang terdekat, aku insaf, dengan keadaan aku sekarang. Bersyukurlah, dengan apa yang ada. Take care of yourself.

Take care of yourself.

bermain cak denga org yg malu camera ... it is the simple things that make you happy ..

I Wonder Why ... Fog Clear Part 2

 I wonder why ...

I cared about people who never cared about me ...

I thought about how much the blings they have earned compared to mine ...

I thought how married people were happier than moir who is single ...

et al ...

It's your life ... it is clear.. you choose how you want to be in their life, and they have chosen as well ... so live your life ... this for sure, in your next chapter ...

saja :P

ps/ - this post was partly inspired by a crowdfunding request I got recently ... now am a friend apparently.

I Have Spoken ... What?

 I have spoken. When you are done talking, do the action. Itu yang akan membuahkan hasil, at least ada feedback, good or bad.

Truly yours is at a junction ...

I have spoken.

beberapa hari lepas

The Fog Sudah Clear Sikit2

 When you know yourself, half of the battle is won .. bak kata Sun Tzu ... sebenarnya, sejak tak bekerja pada Jan 2022, aku banyak berfikir tentang siapa ini ... who I am, and how did I get there ... yg pasti, den terpaksa ikhlas tentang siapa diri den ..

And I think I may have found it ... and it is probably 90% between the two ears ... my heart is in the right place .. the head is another story ... :P no wonder we had evolution ... if you do not evolve, you will be left behind ...

:P

Yesterdays Paling Tak Produktif

 Baru perasan bulan Mac ni, saya tidak produktif menulis post utk MPL. Cuma 6 post sahaja. Why? Bila tidak konsisten, ia akan menjadi inconsistent :P My bad, mungkin sebab saya byk berfikir dan termenung bulan tiga ini. 

Sudah hari ke 5, Ramadan 2023. Tgh ikut cara lain berbuka dan sahur. So far so good, mengurangkan carbs n membuang gula dari minuman.

Finally, this song below makes sense ... and I finally get it ..

Yesterday got nothing for me.....

Lirik lagu

Yesterday, there was so many things

I was never told

Now that I'm startin' to learn

I feel I'm growin' old

'Cause yesterday's got nothin' for me

Old pictures that I'll always see

Time just fades the pages

In my book of memories

Prayers in my pocket

And no hand in destiny

I'll keep on movin' along

With no time to plant my feet

'Cause yesterday's got nothin' for me

Old pictures that I'll always see

Some things could be better

If we'd all just let them be

Yesterday's got nothin' for me

Yesterday's got nothin' for me

Got nothin' for me

Yesterday there were so many things

I was never shown

Suddenly this time I found

I'm on the streets and I'm all alone

Yesterday's got nothin' for me

Old pictures that I'll always see

I ain't got time to reminisce old novelties

Yesterday's got nothin' for me

Yesterday's got nothin' for me

Yesterday's got nothin' for me

Yesterday

Yesterday

Links

Wiki to the song 

Jadi Seorang Ayah Is ...

 Being a dad is tough .. tapi, apa2 pun, you got to toughen it out. That is what I learned today. Hope I can apply it. It was the first of school for da kids. Penat oo .... 

buat2 cerita

Prep Utk Sekolah Anak2

 20/3/23 tarikh yg menarik ... semua anak2 den akan ada dalam sistem persekolahan Malaysia. Farah masuk form 1 PPKI, H masuk tahun 1, dan Zara mulakan her final 2 years of secondary education.

I want to do better for them, InsyaAllah. They deserve better. :D

Okay, kiddos, here's to a new school year :D

sebelum potong rambut ... H pikir2 dulu

Little Signals Jadi One Big Signal

 Life sends little reminders when you make little mistakes, and really gives you a big one when you ignore the little signals. *Sigh* it happened, a perfect storm in a way, today. A potential loss of a month's pay, a revelation of the boss, and how kalut costs you dearly. 

I needed this lesson, but boy it sucks. Again, Andrew Matthews, you are proven right again. The first sentence of this blog post is based on his words.

one of his videos

Jangan Takut Dengan Evolution

 Things change, evolve ... so evolving is okay ... I am evolving, I think wisdom has appeared ... anger is turning into cranky ... hahaha ....

smiling sorang2 in a SBX

S*** Happens But Amor Fati

 Stuff happens, tapi cara kita menerima, dan bertindak terhadapnya adalah hasil yang utama. Secara ringkas, apa yang anda pelajari dari perkara ini?, dan bagaimana anda meneruskan hidup anda selepas ini.

rupa pagi ;)