Weil, last post of 2023 ... would have wanted to write more MPL posts this year, but ... no excuse ... I just didn't do it.
Again, quite a few things this year ... belajar byk tp .. harap it will be used utk 2024 and beyond ...
High -- all the travelling
Low -- the passing of my brother Novie :(
Bring on 2024!
Semalam was birthday arwah B sepatutnya yg ke 47. How do I feel? A bit sad, melancholic, tp overall redha. I hope dia now at a better place.
All of us miss you bruh ..
C u when we get there ...
Sometimes, look at the bigger picture ... plan and do the work. Guna proses and sistem.
Saya pergi melawat pusara Adik Amir. Akhirnya, tunai juga niat den. See you when we get there, kiddo.
Yang tahu, tahulah ceritanya ... di bawah adalah link post2 saya mengenai kisah arwah
Senarai Link ke Artikel Arwah Amir
Typing this post listening to the song below. Saw the movie as well. Milla J was phewwwiittt ...
You have to follow the process. Control and follow the process. The output is what it is. As long as you follow the process.
Bila tiba masa, mesti buat, walaupun berperingkat - peringkat. Just Do It.
Back to regular daily schedule from now on.
Lama tak post ...
well my last post in my 40s ... what I learnt in my 40s ... growing up and wisdom. Am still angry and grr, at times ... but I got wiser ... I guess wisdom finally found me :P
Here's to a better decade ... hopefully, I will do it better!
Hari ini Zara bertambah umur ke 16 tahun. Satu umur signifikan, menandakan satu langkah kedewasaan beliau (dah boleh apply lesen motosikal) ;)
Kenangan paling manis tentang beliau, apabila ibu kata beliau positif (pregnant) dengan dia, my first words were , "Alamak!" ... hahaha .. aduhai :P
Happy Birthday Zara :) Rock Da World!
Hari ini birthday beliau, Azlinda dan di bawah adalah senarai post2 di blog yg menceritakan sedikit tentang perkenalan kami di awal ... Oct 2005 ke awal Jan 2006 ..
Saya rekomen ikut satu per satu ikut turutan nombor
Happy birthday awak ... Ini kenangan kita ..
Saya persembahkan tiga lagu klasik buat Ibu (sempena Hari Ibu)
Ever since den use Google Keep, zass ... I have been busy ... also with Google Calendar ... apa2 you have to schedule it ... kalau tak it will not happen :P
Bersyukurlah dengan apa yang anda. It is your life. So design and execute it,
Semalam, sempat beraya dengan dua kawan lama di sekitar klang valley ini. Had a good time la ... walaupun penat sebab cuaca dan jarak yang jauh, ia berbaloi. Kerana Syawal adalah satu masa yang betul2 memberi lebih makna kepada erti persahabatan.
Sejak kebelakangan ini, I am beginning to question/look at my friends that I have. And, remember who they are.
Handling life regrets can be a difficult and challenging process, but it is essential for personal growth and moving forward with your life. Here are some steps that you can take to handle your regrets and move on:
Remember, handling regrets takes time and effort, but it is possible. By accepting your regrets, learning from your mistakes, and taking positive action, you can move forward and create the life you want.
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Hari ini, wisdom datang. Apabila kita menerima fakta dan move on, that is wisdom apparently. Kurangkan bodoh sombong anda, anda akan mendapat wisdom.
Hazliza Ismail meninggal malam tadi, 8 pm, kerana sakit kanser. Arwah berasal dari Ampangan, bersekolah rendah di KGV (Seremban), dan menengah di KGV Menengah (Seremban) dan MRSM Jasin (Melaka). Saya kenal arwah semasa bersekolah di MRSM Jasin. Rupa-rupanya, kami bergerak dalam kumpulan sama sebelum bersekolah di Jasin pun, kerana kawan2 arwah di Ampangan, adalah kawan2 saya juga .
Saya tidak rapat dengan arwah, tetapi sepanjang mengenali beliau, yang pasti, beliau adalah insan yang easy-going dan ceria. Kami sekelas semasa tingkatan 5, 5 O. Saya pernah menghadiri wedding beliau dengan seorang rakan, arwah Azri. Pada kami sampai, beliau tengah buat sesi pakaian berhias :) ... masa tu, beliau pakai pesen kimono ;) Masa berjumpa, dia ada bercerita dia melanjutkan pelajaran ke UPM Bintulu, Sarawak, selepas SPM dan pada masa itu, bekerja di kilang Samsung, Senawang, Tidak lupa komen beliau tentang garangnya majikan orang Korea ;)
Saya ingat dua pertemuan terakhir dengan beliau.
Pertama, saya dan rakan saya, Errol, melawat open house rumah baru beliau n hubby di Seri Kembangan, Ketika itu, beliau sudah bertugas sebagai guru di sana, Masa tu, saya dapat tahu yang beliau baru recover from cancer, and dalam remission. This was about satu dekad lepas.
Kedua, saya terserempak beliau di McD Sg Besi (Serdang) drive through, semasa membeli McD. She was sitting at a table bersama seorang rakan Jasin, Homi, dan seorang wanita lain. Saya rasakan depa tengah buat MLM, so saya tak kacau, just nodded at her.
Dan malam tadi, seorang rakan Ampangan text kata arwah telah pergi. Dan setelah saya sebarkan berita kepada rakan2 lain, baru tahu sikit2 apa yang berlaku dengan arwah kebelakangan ini. Beliau betul2 laid low this past few years.
The cliche is true, you miss the good ones when they are gone.
InsyaAllah, see you when we get there, Jaja.
Ingat masa saya mengajar dahulu, saya pernah katakan kepada pelajar2 saya bahawa doing nothing is the surest thing ever, gerenti jadi. But, if you take action, it is either you will succeed or fail. Sebab itu la, ramai antara kita jatuh penyakit 'paralysis by analysis' ... too much thinking sampai tak buat apa2.
I am guilty of this as well ... especially during the dark years ... solusi: sabar dan syukur ... ;) bersabar dengan keadaan semasa, dan bersyukur kita ada pilihan.
Buat Pilihan. Tgk Apa Jadi. Learn from apa jadi. Move on.
Hari ini saya nak buat macam2 .. tetapi dengan tanggungjawab yang ada, I can only do so much. Mengingatkan saya pada kisah batu besar, batu kecil dan bekas kaca. Secara ringkas, kita ada bekas kaca, dan sekumpulan batu2 - besar dan kecil. Batu besar adalah kerja/tanggungjawab besar, batu kecil adalah kerja/tanggungjawab kecil. Bagaimana kita nak isi bekas kaca dengan batu besar dan batu kecil secara optimum? Solusinya, kita letak batu besar dahulu, then kita letak batu kecil, untuk mendapatkan solusi optimum.
Penerangan secara lebih mendalam dalam video bawah oleh Stephen Covey
Yang menarik is post2 saya yang mendapat sambutan adalah post2 saya tentang pemergian, contohnya post semalam tentang arwah TK. Mungkin, kerana post2 begini saya menulis dengan lebih panjang dan more from the heart.
Arwah sepatutnya 60 tahun ini ... dan nak sambung cerita la, since saya tidak habis tulis semalam, ada teringat sikit2 lagi ... saya tanya dia, kenapa rambut dia hitam saja .. dari dulu saya kenai dia ... baru tau jawapan, rupa2nya memang sebab genetik :) rambut family belah dia mmg hitam dan lebat2 belaka. Saya selalu kata, kalau dia, saya ingat rambut dia hitam dan cacak!
Juga dapat tahu yang arwah Ajak, seorang rakan DagangNet juga adalah BFF beliau rupanya. Arwah Ajak pergi masa musim covid yang lepas, sekitar tahun 2020. Dan kali terakhir saya jumpa arwah TK, sebelum jumpa di KPJ, adalah juga bersama arwah Ajak di kenduri arwah anak Ajak sekitar 2019. Aduh!
Luckily, we keep in touch via Seret Hikers WhatsApp, tapi still ...
Lesson: Kita tidak tahu bila kita akan pergi, ... jika anda peluang berjumpa f2f bersama rakan/org tersayang, jangan lepaskan peluang ...
Sekian.
Bila melihat keadaan manusia yang terdekat, aku insaf, dengan keadaan aku sekarang. Bersyukurlah, dengan apa yang ada. Take care of yourself.
Take care of yourself.
I wonder why ...
I cared about people who never cared about me ...
I thought about how much the blings they have earned compared to mine ...
I thought how married people were happier than moir who is single ...
et al ...
It's your life ... it is clear.. you choose how you want to be in their life, and they have chosen as well ... so live your life ... this for sure, in your next chapter ...
ps/ - this post was partly inspired by a crowdfunding request I got recently ... now am a friend apparently.
I have spoken. When you are done talking, do the action. Itu yang akan membuahkan hasil, at least ada feedback, good or bad.
Truly yours is at a junction ...
I have spoken.
When you know yourself, half of the battle is won .. bak kata Sun Tzu ... sebenarnya, sejak tak bekerja pada Jan 2022, aku banyak berfikir tentang siapa ini ... who I am, and how did I get there ... yg pasti, den terpaksa ikhlas tentang siapa diri den ..
And I think I may have found it ... and it is probably 90% between the two ears ... my heart is in the right place .. the head is another story ... :P no wonder we had evolution ... if you do not evolve, you will be left behind ...
Baru perasan bulan Mac ni, saya tidak produktif menulis post utk MPL. Cuma 6 post sahaja. Why? Bila tidak konsisten, ia akan menjadi inconsistent :P My bad, mungkin sebab saya byk berfikir dan termenung bulan tiga ini.
Sudah hari ke 5, Ramadan 2023. Tgh ikut cara lain berbuka dan sahur. So far so good, mengurangkan carbs n membuang gula dari minuman.
Finally, this song below makes sense ... and I finally get it ..
Links
Wiki to the song
Being a dad is tough .. tapi, apa2 pun, you got to toughen it out. That is what I learned today. Hope I can apply it. It was the first of school for da kids. Penat oo ....
20/3/23 tarikh yg menarik ... semua anak2 den akan ada dalam sistem persekolahan Malaysia. Farah masuk form 1 PPKI, H masuk tahun 1, dan Zara mulakan her final 2 years of secondary education.
I want to do better for them, InsyaAllah. They deserve better. :D
Okay, kiddos, here's to a new school year :D
Life sends little reminders when you make little mistakes, and really gives you a big one when you ignore the little signals. *Sigh* it happened, a perfect storm in a way, today. A potential loss of a month's pay, a revelation of the boss, and how kalut costs you dearly.
I needed this lesson, but boy it sucks. Again, Andrew Matthews, you are proven right again. The first sentence of this blog post is based on his words.
Things change, evolve ... so evolving is okay ... I am evolving, I think wisdom has appeared ... anger is turning into cranky ... hahaha ....
Stuff happens, tapi cara kita menerima, dan bertindak terhadapnya adalah hasil yang utama. Secara ringkas, apa yang anda pelajari dari perkara ini?, dan bagaimana anda meneruskan hidup anda selepas ini.
At the mid-century mark, now you see how important how sleep is ... you want to dream when you sleep, because that means you are in the deepest sleep ;)
Tadi petang, boss den kata apa2 mesti buat cukup2, no halfway done. Fokus n buat betul2. Ya ya, boss.
Aduss, lesson learnt. Tq boss.
You forget, you repeat the same mistake. Duhhh .... remember Einstein definition of insanity la ...
Satu perkara yang saya sangat2 bersyukur ialah pada umur yg mahu setengah abad, am still learning new things. And, one of the best lessons, is the title of this blog post. Failing to Plan, is planning to fail.
It is simple.
1. What is the outcome?
2. What are the processes to ensure the outcome?
3. Process in detail? -planning-
4. Execute the plan, according to the schedule.
No wonder James Clear kata it is all about the systems.
Nasihat James Clear
"Before you throw more time at the problem, throw more focused action at the problem. You don’t need more time, you need fewer distractions."
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"Patience only works if you do.
Doing the work + patience = results.
Planning to work + patience = you're just waiting."
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"Momentum goes both ways.
Don’t move, feel sluggish. Start moving, feel like moving a little more.
Don't talk, feel timid. Start chatting, conversation gets a little easier.
Don't ship, feel stuck. Start creating, ideas begin to flow."
Selagi ada tindakan, ada gerakan ... gerakan ke arah matlamat anda. Sikit2, massive2 ... janji ada tindakan. Buat je ... hero saya adalah contoh saya terbaik dalam benda ini,
Kadang2 bila kita buat je, tanpa byk berfikir .. solusinya muncul. Itu yg den belajar hari ini. I am not too old to learn. This must be what wisdom feels like.
Hari ini hari graduasi Farah di sekolah beliau. Beliau istimewa, and am so proud of her.
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