I have not been blogging for the past few days ... suffice to say that my time management skills which were nearly non-existent, are being honed and due to that, I am learning ...
1) Another blog
My Pet Life has another offspring .. it's here .... do check it out.
2) Work
Work is currently going on and it's getting more and more interesting ... for the first few months, I knew that I will have extreme hi n lows .. but, it is all part of the process ...
3) Jr Updates
Yes, my darling is five months already .. so far syukur semuanya okay .. it is hitting me that in the middle of this year ... yours truly will be responsible for another human being ... dang !! I want my freedom back ;-) ... hehehe ....
Life must go on and evolve ya ..
Up there is the latest scan pic.. dr say, dah ada rupa la .. but sex not known yet ...
fyi, I have been busy with various matters.. work n personal ..
Work
My work is getting busy n more interesting. The way I c it, here I have to prove myself again. No biggie, in fact, I welcome the challenge. Let me shine as who I am, not what I am ... *read between the lines* ..
What I want to do is work better .. I have been checking out this series that ran in Fortune Magazine, in March 2006. Various corporate figures were highlighted and from what is wrote, a few conclusions, for me, at least - each have their own way / style - discipline in following is important - planning is also important
We tend to know this, but sadly the follow throughs are what lacks. I m guilty of 'em myself. So, it is up to me to follow what I have read, or join the have nots.
Personal
As some of you might know, middle of 2006, I got married, n middle of this year, god willing, we will become parents. Right now it is kind of surreal, but as my wife gets bigger, the evidence is right there. Gue nak jd father soon! *gulp* ... biar bener ... I am taking it slowly as it comes la... I am excited yet nervy abt the whole thing ... say, any recommended readings for father to be ah ?
My strong memory allows me to remember a lot of things. And some of em are things I don't want to remember. I have been working for the past years on letting go.. recently, through this my readings on NLP, I learnt a technique which helps a bit.
The technique is called association. My lingering trauma of certain events is due the association of audio n video of these events, meaning that I can still remember the visuals n sounds of the event. It suggested that these associations be changed.
What I did was mentally turning off the sound when the flashbacks began. It did help in negating the pain. The next step now is to mentally shelve the images, which I have not done yet..
Other personal notes - I plan to publish a few blogs; now working on some ideas.. - I am hopping on the e-commerce bandwagon ;-) .. still working the details.. - and a work related certification that I plan to achieve by end of the year ...
it looks daunting for all of the above.. but I will do it. No wonder a lot of the high achievers, they can do so many things, as they are stingy with their time. Yep, masa itu emas .. n failure to plan is planning to fail ..
I have a post all written up but it's stuck in my PDA. I'll post it soon ...
Johor Floods
It is quite a tragedy to be honest ... not once, but twice in a row .. when it comes to all banjir disasters, usually, Johor is the least known state to suffer, but this time, it seems to be a major problem.
Datuk Shahrizat called for volunteers, but the response was lookwarm ... this post summed it perfectly. In Malaysia, I noticed when disasters occur, it is usually, the unknown heroes, the common joe ( Ali, Ah Chong, Muthu, et al ), who do the hard work to help. The VIPs are there for the photo op. When the good times roll, it is only the VIPs who get limelight.
Forgive me for being cynically about all of this ... but I guess this is life ...
World Outlook
As various shenanigans are going around the world, I ask myself .. why would you want to bring another jr. in this world ? Then, it occurred to me .. oh well, maybe if I raise my kids and family alright .. it will contribute to a better world :-) ... sounds idealistic huh ? ..
Blogs
My Pet Life will also have some new siblings ... coming soon :-)
L n Gs, check out the pic sebelah ni .. see if u can figure it out :D ..
in the highlighted box, that's the future junior .. due in mid 2007 ... all I can say now is " Wooo.."
New Work Place
Started work in a new place yesterday ... now my office is in the TTDI, a bit further away from KL. I am okay, but kind of nervous still, as this is a new place, but InsyaAllah, I will do fine .. 3 months probation though .... doakan gue okay ya ....
Ku lihat kau berlegar-legar di kaki lima, Inginku tegurmu tapi terasa curiga, Mungkin ekspresimu nanti tak sepertiku harapkan, Adakah kau merinduku sepertiku merindumu..
Tanpa aku sedari, cinta pun mula berputik, Mulanya dari teguran "boleh kita berkenalan?" Tanya "apa nama, buat apa, nak ke mana?" Hati rasa berdebar...
Janganlah hancurkan hati ini.. Ku hanya mencuba meluahkan perasaan.. Usahlah ragui hati ini... Kerna kau satu-satunya gadis yang ku cinta selamanya...
I got home dat day, feeling so tired and in pain, I wana call u but u need your rest, u might feel the same.. Something's wrong with me, i can't seem to find myself... (U know what?) I think I'm crazy over you...
I called my friend and asked her, "What should i do, what should i say?" Cos everytime i hear your voice, you'll throw me miles away.. My cellphone suddenly rings...your name is on the screen...
Janganlah hancurkan hati ini.. Ku hanya mencuba meluahkan perasaan.. Usahlah ragui hati ini... Kerna kau satu-satunya gadis yang ku cinta selamanya...
Ome - err really ah ? But, I tend to judge stuff based on moral perceptions..but in this world, morality is a double edged sword eh ?
You Have Low Self Esteem 60% of the Time
While you sometimes feel good about yourself, you tend to struggle a little with self esteem issues. It's not about changing who you are, it's about accepting your faults. You just need to be less critical and demanding of yourself!
It has been a long time since I posted. A good friend asked where I have been ... my simple excuse was I have been very2 preoccupied ,... tp, I have been going around the blogworld ... so I am not out of touch la sangat
1) Raya Trip
Raya was a trip to the Mrs kampung in kota bharu, kelantan. Folks, whatever you have heard abt the infamous Kelantan jam .. I can confirm that it is all true .. penat la ... i drove 9 hrs to KB, using the usual KL - Gua Musang - KB road ... balik, I went the roundabout way thru K. Tganu ..and it took 12 hours ! Luckily, it's a bi-yearly thing... :-) On the good stuff, loads of good Kelate food ( manis2 wehh ... ), met nice2 relatives... and received a few kain pelikat ( I am told it's a Kelate newly wed tradition ;-) ) ..cool !!
2) Final IS Paper
I have finished my final IS paper for my Masters finally !! It was overdue for about a year .. after the hee haw n whatevers, I managed to get it done. As usual, it was a last minute job, but I am not complaining, as it was my decisions that lead me to the situation. Bring on the convo next year :-)
3) Final Month
It is my final month at my current firm. I have to thank em for teaching me a lot, but I have to move on. And event that I have seen in the past weeks, confirmed my decision. The cool thing s that it is here, I have learned new work methods and now where my future is, albeit, a surety this time. Learnt a lot about myself, especially ... so I can't thank the firm enough...
4) Open Houses
What is Syawal without open houses ? This is a Malaysian tradition that should be cherished ... when it comes to food, Malaysia is king :-) .. I propose that the Tourism Malaysia 2007 says, Malaysia, Food Truly World !!! :-)
5) Congrats, to Acat n Cookie
The couple who inspired abt a year are getting hitched next year InsyaAllah :-) I am so happy for them. I met Cookie once and see her as a warm, jovial person, so Acat jaga dia baik2 okay :P ... hehe, she did ask abt the issue of going thru it again, after the previous hurt. I can talk long abt it .. but in the end, it can be summarized from these line in Good Will Hunting...
" You're not perfect sport, and let me save you the suspense, this girl you've met she's not perfect either. But the question is whether or not you're perfect for each other. That is what intimacy is all about. You can know everything in the world, but the only you know about this is by giving it a shot "
so, cookie .. give acat a shot, .. the man is definitely so in to you ( Mcm lagu SWV la pulok .. )
6) The Mongolian Murder
It can only happen here and still gets screwed up in its execution. To the UTK trainers, update your syllabus with loads of CSI, Alias and Gilmore Girls viewings please ..... (err, Gilmore Girls was to lighten themselves up ) ..
7) UMNO 2006
**deleted to excessive political subjective rant*** please refer to the daily news, if u love 'em, or Malaysiakini or Malaysia-Today, if u are on the other side.
A few things to say, as Ramadhan is nearly over and Syawal is closer ..
1) Marriage 101
After 3 months of marital life, I salute those who have been for married for years :-) it's true folks ... it is hard work.. byk sabar2 and give and take I tell ya .. but, it is the little things that make it worthwhile .. :-) a stroke of the face in the end of a tired day .. mcm kata Sean in Good Will Hunting ;-)
2) Audio motivation Recently for the past few months, I have been burning some of the free motivation mp3s that I have in my pc and listening to them, while I am driving. Alone of course ;-) And I have come to a common conclusion that it works as you listen to the messages over and over again. It is the simple messages which ring true and when you listen to it repeatedly, it inspires you to action yourself.. it works folks, but in the end, the choice is up to you, to do it or not :-)
3) December Comes
I am joining another firm in December. A positive movement in my career, expanding what I am doing in my current firm. I am happy to leave, but I thank my current place for making me a better professional. But, in order to grow, I have to move on. As a professional, I will do my job until end of November. Also, I know what is the major concept of my career . it is CRM. The details are still hazy, but the foundation is there.
In the past few months ever since I settled down, things have changed ..some things remained the same ... I have been reading Jack Canfield's The Success Principles .. still not finished yet though...but, the principles in the book are timeless and it works. And I am implementing it one by one in my life right now ... highly recommended :-) ...
Principle No 1 : Take 100 % Responsibility For Your Life 2) Solid
As an ode to this man and lady :-) .. the song below .. they were my inspiration when I was at a low point personally, abt a year ago .. and rasa2nya, ada berita baik kot in the future, kan guys ? ;-)
SOLID - Ashford n Simpson
And for love’s sake, each mistake, ah, you forgave And soon both of us learned to trust Not run away, it was no time to play We build it up and build it up and build it up
And now it’s solid Solid as a rock That’s what this love is That’s what we’ve got, oh, mmm…
Solid (Oh) Solid as a rock And nothing’s changed it (Ooh) The thrill is still hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot
Oh…oh…oh…ah…
You didn’t turn away When the sky went gray Somehow we managed We had to stick together (Ooh…ooh…ooh…ooh…)
You didn’t bat an eye When I made you cry We knew down the line We would make it better (Ooh…ooh…ooh…ooh…)
And for love’s sake, each mistake, ah, you forgave And soon both of us learned to trust Not run away, it was no time to play We build it up and build it up and build it up
Now it’s solid Solid as a rock [Ooh] That’s what this love is (Oh…oh…) That’s what we’ve got [Oh…oh…] (Yes, it is)
Solid Solid as a rock And nothing’s changed it [Oh…] The thrill is still hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot
Oh…oh…oh…ah…
Gone with the wind Another friend Got in between Tried to separate us (Ooh…ooh…ooh…ooh…)
Oh, knock-knock on wood You understood Love was so new We did what we had to (Ooh…ooh…ooh…ooh…)
And with that feeling we were willing to take a chance So against all odds, we made a start We got serious (Ooh), this wouldn’t turn to dust We build it up and build it up and build it up
And now it’s solid (Ooh) Solid as a rock That’s what this love is (Oh) That’s what we’ve got, oh (Oh, oh)
Solid (Yes, it is) Solid as a rock (Ah…) And nothing’s changed it (Ooh) The thrill is still hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot , hot , hot
Solid (Oh) Solid as a rock (You know it) [Well] (You know it, baby) Solid Solid as a rock (Lovin’ me, lovin’ me, oh)
Solid (Don’t leave me, baby) Solid as a rock [Well, well, why, why] (Oh…) Solid Solid as a rock (Every day it gets sweeter, now) [Ooh]
Solid [You know I like it] Solid as a rock (Good, good, well, it’s good, good, good) Solid (Solid, solid, solid, solid, solid) As a rock
I pray you'll be our eyes, and watch us where we go. And help us to be wise in times when we don't know. Let this be our prayer, when we lose our way. Lead us to a place, guide us with your grace To a place where we'll be safe.
La luce che tu dai Nel cuore restera A ricordarci che L'eterna stella sei.
I pray we'll find your light, And hold it in our hearts When stars go out each night, Remind us where you are..
Nella mia preghiera Quanta fede c'e. Lead us to a place ?
Let this be our prayer When shadows fill our day Guide us with your grace
Give us faith so we'll be safe.
Sogniamo un mondo senza piu violenza, Un mondo di giustizia e di speranza. Ognuno dia una mano al suo vicino, Simbolo di pace...di fraternita.
La forza che ci dai E desiderio te Ognuno trovi amor Intorno e dentro se. Let this be our prayer, Just like every child.
We ask that life be kind And watch us from above. We hope each soul will find Another soul to love. Let this be our prayer, Just like every child.
Needs to find a place, guide us with your grace Give us faith so we'll be safe E la fede che hai acceso in noi Sento che ci salverai...
Assalammu'alaikum wr. wb, Ramadhan sudah diambang pintu, Jika Allah berkehendak InsyaAllah kita akan menemui Ramadhan penuh barakah. Semoga kata taqwa InsyaAllah akan menjadi milik kita yang berharga sebagai modal untuk langkah kita selanjutnya Sementara Salah paham, kesedihan, ego, sakit hati, adalah sebahagian dari proses kehidupan kita.
Tapi Allah membuatnya dengan sangat sempurna, tidak ada yang sia - sia dari apa yang sudah Allah kemas dengan baik dalam bingkai rumah kehidupan kita Tidak ada yang lebih mulia pada hari dimana semua malaikat memanjatkan doa, dimana tidak ada kegiatan baik yang tidak dilipat gandakan amalannya oleh Allah.
"MAKA NIKMAT TUHANMU YANG MANAKAH YANG KAMU DUSTAKAN..." teringat ayat ini terus berulang di Ar-Rahman... teringat kelemahan diri akan segala khilaf dan salah... semoga Ramadhan ini membawa kebaikan, dan kesejukan... seperti layaknya embun di pagi hari berkilau tertimpa cahaya mentari... semoga di masa mendatang terus dianugerahi keheningan hati... seperti layaknya telaga Kautsar..
Dengan segala kekurangan dan kerendahan hati serta keikhlasan atas semua kekhilafan dan kelalaian yang pernah saya lakukan baik secara langsung mahupun melalui dunia maya, Jauh didalam hati yang senentiasa didalam genggaman Allah, Saya mengucapkan : " Marhabban Ya Ramadhan, Mohon Maaf Lahir dan Bathin. " Semoga Allah mengampuni semua dosa-dosa kita dan memberikan Barkahnya di Bulan penuh Hikmah ini. Wassamu'alaikum Wr. Wb,.
---- the above stuff is from an email a friend forwarded to me. Ramadhan is here and it's my first time dengan wifey. Wifey ? Aku dah kahwin eh ? heheh .. last year, never I imasgined this to happen ..
Last nite was our first terawih together at a local masjid. It was okay la .. , as advised by a few friends, in Ramadhan, as a hubby, byk sabar2 ye .... :-) .. dulu dok pahe ..sekrg pahe2 sgt. Keh keh ...
Things are getting pretty interesting .. living in a marriage is really something, once u are actually in it. I understand the phrase " sedangkan lidah pun tergigit, ini kan hati manusia .. ", or something like that .. ;-)
Not a winning week for my sports teams. Pool , Skins , Raiders lost .. FSU, Notre Dame and Barca won though. I am a sports fan, yes, but, only nowadays, the lessons of the game I am noting it down and following ..
Among them
1. Planning is VERY Important 2. Details .. details .. details 3. Do your best each time 4. If it does not go your way, learn and let it go ...
The previous post comment was really stinging, but true. The person was not the only one who discovered my marriage that way. There were others with the same comments, one way or the other.
In going through the list of invitees, I made the choices based on several factors. Suffice to say, some of the factors were plain inaccurate.
I sincerely apologize to them. I made a judgment based on the facts I knew then and was proven wrong.
It is pretty interesting for the past month, since dah sebulan, on marriage. The fun, up n downs, quirks ... I am adjusting as best as I can ... Most of the nasihat which I have received are true to a variety of degree.
No wedding is perfect. I guess there are a few things which bugged me about the wedding that was on my side. Main grouse : The non attendance by people who received invitation and confirmed their attendance. And, in the aftermath, no reasons / explanations why ...
I stewed abt it for a while .. and then decided to just let go .. Luckily, my dearest is a patient person who kindly listens while I ramble ... letting go of bad stuff, is something which I have been practising for the past few years with a lot hurt that I have been through ..
As my dear friend Inn would understand, letting go is one of the easiest things to say, but hardest to do.
My thanks to those who came, and those who didn't come, but informed me.
" The future is NOW ! The past is past .... "
ps/ - You don't know what marriage until you are in one !
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